Browsing All posts tagged under »bullying«

Laying the Blame for Epidemic Bullying where It Belongs: At the Feet of Feminist Liberalism

March 7, 2016

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I mentioned in the last post that a teenage girl I know, an AP student, told me she was called a “whore” through a website called Snapchat. She also told me classmates of hers—girl classmates—had accused her of prostituting herself for money to buy cocaine…which is pretty specific. It’s true the social media that the […]

What Restraining Order Defendants Need to Know That No One Ever Tells Them: The Truth Doesn’t Matter

June 28, 2015

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The ambition of this post, an intermission between considerations of graver subjects, is to dispel restraining order defendants’ faith in the value of “truth.” Defendants are led to believe that if they’re truthful in the defiance of lies or hyped allegations, all will turn out as it should. But truth is a false idol that […]

The “Nightmare” Neil Shelton Has Lived for Three Years and Is Still Living: A Father’s Story of Restraining Order Abuse

April 24, 2015

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The following account is reported by North Carolinian Neil Shelton, a father denied access to his son and daughter for “three years now and counting.” In his account, Mr. Shelton alleges that his sister, in collusion with his ex-wife, lied to have him involuntarily committed, and that one or more partners in the law firm of his ex-wife’s […]

Misperception of the Damages of False Accusation Isn’t a Girls-Only Fault

April 19, 2015

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“What the fuck is wrong with these people? I keep seeing the same argument again and again and again and again—the idea that being accused of rape is not simply as bad as being raped but often worse. I honestly can’t believe how people can be so fucking dense so as to think this is […]

False Accusations and Murder: More Headlines about the Effects of Finger-Pointing and Legal Abuse

April 18, 2015

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“[W]hy would someone lie about being sexually assaulted? What could be gained from that? Nothing, really.” —Tracie Egan Morrissey, Jezebel (Feb. 28, 2014) The quotation above derives from a piece titled, “Rape, Lies and the Internet: The Story of Conor Oberst and His Accuser.” It’s spotlighted because it echoes the sentiment expressed by the writer of […]

False Accusations and Suicide: Some Headlines about the Effects of Finger-Pointing and Legal Abuse (Culled for the Empathically Challenged)

April 14, 2015

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One of the stories highlighted below concerns a young man who was falsely labeled a rapist by some bullies at school. He hanged himself. He was 16. Another concerns a man who spent a year and a half in prison based on a false accusation of sexual assault (among other false accusations). While the man was […]

Inciting Violence: If Lawmakers Require a Compelling Motive for Restraining Order Reform, How about This One?

February 12, 2015

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I examined a case, recently, of a man’s committing murder hours after being accused to the police. My familiarity with the case was, admittedly, shallow; I only had what was reported to go on (and that from a single, “raw” source). I have, however, heard from scores of people who’ve been accused—or scorned for telling […]

Dust It Off: This Isn’t 1979, and It’s Time Restraining Order Laws Were Reconsidered

January 8, 2015

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Many links in this post are to others that will be republished shortly pending review for content that has been judicially censored.—Editor I remarked to a commenter the other day that when I became a vegetarian in the ’80s, I was still a kid, and my family took it as an affront, which was a […]

(Female) Stalkers, False Allegations, and Restraining Order Abuse

April 16, 2014

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Restraining orders are maliciously abused—not sometimes, but often. Typically this is done in heat to hurt or hurt back, to shift blame for abusive misconduct, or to gain the upper hand in a conflict that may have far-reaching consequences. There’s a cooler, more methodical style of abuse practiced by people who aren’t in intimate daily proximity […]

Blame, No Shame: Restraining Order Abuse by High-Conflict, Personality-Disordered Plaintiffs

April 3, 2014

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“Court is perfectly suited to the fantasies of someone with a personality disorder: There is an all-powerful person (the judge) who will punish or control the other [person]. The focus of the court process is perceived as fixing blame—and many with personality disorders are experts at blame. There is a professional ally who will champion […]

Bullying: A Proposition for Psychological Study Inspired by Accounts of Restraining Order Abuse and Fraud

March 3, 2014

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I’ve just corresponded with another victim of tag-teaming involving false allegations made to authorities and the court that were augmented and exacerbated by false rumors and group threats made on Facebook, hyped protestations of fear and danger circulated among friends and family, etc. This moved me to investigate whether there’s a label for this kind […]

“Fag,” “Stalker,” “Sicko,” “Brute,” “Creep”: On Labeling and the Psychic Effects of Public Revilement in and out of Court

January 23, 2014

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One of my favorite puzzles when I was a boy directed the solver to figure out what was different between almost identical pictures. I think it appeared in Highlights for Children. I have a collection of Highlights someplace, because I meant to write for kids and used to study and practice children’s writing daily, but […]

Crying Wolf: On Attention-Seeking Personality Disorders and Restraining Order Abuse

May 24, 2013

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I this week came across an online monograph with the unwieldy (and very British) title, “Drama Queens, Saviours, Rescuers, Feigners, and Attention-Seekers: Attention-Seeking Personality Disorders, Victim Syndrome, Insecurity, and Centre of Attention Behavior,” which pointedly speaks to a number of behaviors identified by victims of restraining orders who have written in to this blog or […]